My name is Eelco, I live in the Hague in The Netherlands with my son. I have been coaching for many years now and have been a single parent since he was 1 year old. I live a fulfilled life now, but it has not always been like that! 

I have struggled for years to get my life on track.

I had a burnout in 2011 because I was trying too hard to please other people.

And on the back of that I got into a relationship where I let my boundaries being crossed even more. I completely ignored myself.

My wife suffered from depression, and I did everything to please her and completely ignored my own needs. At one point, there was nothing left of me.

Then she got pregnant and after giving birth to our son, she fell even deeper into depression. She wasn’t able to take care of our son, so my caring for others-mode became even greater.

I couldn't cope with everything so I went into survival mode until the point I almost gave up. And I like the quote by the famous writer and single mom J.K. Rowling:

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

Because in hindsight, that is what happened.

So I ended up spending truckloads of money that I didn’t have and money that I didn’t have on books and courses on personal development. 

I even started seeing an expensive therapist which wasn’t covered by insurance. It was very costly, and I had to overcome my ego and the erroneous belief that phycologists are only for crazy people, but I took the plunge and did it. and it was through doing those things that I slowly started moving forward, out of that dark hole.

Now my journey of getting my life back on track after divorce and create a loving relationship with my son has taken me more than 5 years.

And I have taken what I have learned on my journey, and I want to help other men to get through being a single father, without having to go to the long and painful journey that I have been through.

Eelco

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